Mom and I went to an Estate Sale yesterday. I love Estate Sales, you can find such neat stuff at them. When we were purchasing the items that we had chosen, one of the women noticed that Jackson was playing with his pacifier. He wasn't sucking on it, he was chewing on the side of it or putting the pacifier holder in his mouth. The woman made a comment about when her children started doing that she knew it was time to take the pacifier away. My mom said he still liked it when he went to sleep and that we weren't ready to take it away from him.
My first thought was 'WTF? He's a baby, he plays with stuff.' My second thought was 'Is she telling me to take the pacifier from him and that I am a bad mother if I don't?' My third thought was 'Maybe she was just trying to make conversation.' Well anyway you look at it, I don't understand the need for people to make comments like this. I find it rude and belittling. To me, and maybe I am oversensitive, it's like they think they are superior since they have raised children and they feel that their way is the right way.
Now here is where I am weird. I don't mind these type of comments from family and friends. But for some reason it really makes me angry when strangers seem to be judging the way I care for my child. When a family member or friend makes a comment like that I feel that they know me and my family and they are only wanting the best for Jackson. But a random stranger!? It's like they looked at us and made this snap judgement about my parenting. I know I should just shrug it off, it's not like I will every see this woman again. She has no impact on my life or Jackson's. But still it's almost kind of hurtful that random people think that they know better.
Ugh! I think I may just stay in my house and never leave. We have enough space and a big backyard, we'll be fine.
5 days ago
5 comments:
so...what did you buy?
I'm with you with the strangers vs. family.
Hunter was chowing down on a pink cookie in the check out line at the grocery store and the woman behind me asked me how I felt about letting my child eat a cookie with food coloring in it. I told her he loves them.
People always love to give their two cents. I just ignore them. You know you are a good parent and that is all that matters.
Hay why didn't you put her in her place. I remember one time in when Justin was 2 and he had his pacifier and he was chewing on it.This lady stayed about the same thing,I told her to mine her own business.You know me it was not in a nice way.
any princess diana? mmmmm see you friday
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